Erotic Hypnosis: Real? Or Fantasy?

My go-to answer whenever anyone asks me this is always “both”. But as straight to the point as that is… it’s pretty blunt, bland, and doesn’t leave much scope for insight.

I think before I whittle on about my own personal opinion and perspective, it is quite important for us to go over what erotic hypnosis actually is… which is exactly what it says on the tin… the practice of hypnosis used in conjunction with erotic themes… though I will give you a much fleshier answer….

I can't make you do ANYTHING I want... But I probably already know what you really want deep inside... Yes... even the very very dark things...

Hypnosis, in its simplest and least theatrical sense, is not some mystical trance or loss of self, but a very ordinary function of attention. Contrary to popular belief, it isn’t a pseudoscience, but a well-documented psychological phenomenon grounded in decades of research. It is a state of focused absorption, where awareness narrows, internal imagery becomes more vivid, and the mind grows more responsive to suggestion. This isn’t controversial in contemporary psychology; it’s well established. Neuroimaging studies show measurable changes in areas of the brain involved in attention, self-monitoring, and perception, suggesting not that agency disappears, but that it shifts. Intention is still present, choice is still present, but the way experience is organised feels different. Which is perhaps why hypnosis is so often misunderstood. It doesn’t bypass consent or critical thought, and it certainly isn’t mind control. It works through cooperation, expectation, and willingness, through the simple fact that the mind, when invited rather than forced, is remarkably good at following along.

Incorporating erotic themes into hypnosis doesn’t fundamentally change how hypnosis works; it simply changes what the mind is invited to attend to. Erotic material is particularly effective because it already engages many of the same mechanisms hypnosis relies on: focused attention, vivid imagery, emotional salience, and bodily awareness. From a psychological perspective, erotic content heightens absorption and motivation, making suggestions feel more immediate and experiential rather than abstract. This isn’t about overwhelming the subject or switching off critical thought, but about working with material that the brain is naturally responsive to. When approached ethically and consensually, erotic hypnosis becomes an extension of ordinary hypnotic processes, using desire, fantasy, and anticipation as anchors for attention rather than treating them as something separate or exceptional.

I enjoy using a unique blend of reality and fantasy...

Now we have gotten that out of the way… I can now force-feed you my thoughts and perspectives…

To be clear, I am speaking through the lens of someone who incorporates hypnosis with domination. It is very important to highlight that erotic hypnosis is actually quite a broad umbrella term (as desires are also varied) and someone being an erotic hypnotist doesn’t automatically equate them to BDSM themes. But that is very much what I do…

It has never once come as a surprise to me that submissive personality types may veer towards the concept of hypnosis. It is no secret that my first moments within the fetish industry were involved with financial domination; I very much understand the attraction to loss of control and being put in a state of vulnerability. Hypnosis does that on such an intense level… I mean to say, there is something very compelling about experiencing someone invading your mind. It’s not easily shaken off (though, to be frank, I feel that for our submissive personality types, any fulfilling BDSM experience is difficult to forget… if you do it right…). And it is such an addictive sensation, precisely because it is so close to a loss of independent mental autonomy.

For me, the hypnosis is real because the methods are real. What I work with isn’t spectacle or belief, but established hypnotic processes: conversational pacing, indirect suggestion, attentional absorption, repetition, and narrative dissociation. Sometimes that takes the form of structured induction and deepening; other times it’s quieter, more permissive, unfolding through tone, rhythm, and implication rather than instruction. The erotic elements don’t replace those foundations, they simply heighten engagement by working with attention, emotion, and imagination, things the mind is already responsive to. Nothing here is done to someone. It’s an invitation, carefully built, where experience emerges through cooperation rather than force. The effect may feel dreamlike or intense, but the mechanisms themselves are neither imaginary nor theatrical. They’re psychological, intentional, and very real.

Where the fantasy comes in is my themes... I’m aware that I can be mildly controversial, even by the standards of BDSM… because I play with themes surrounding a loss of consent (my particular favourite theme for doing this is medical play), loss of autonomy, identity dissolution, and so on. All themes and tones where I think we are all publicly meant to state our distaste. But this is where I will say that I do view what I do as a very healing process. For those who engage with me, the consent, trust, and enthusiasm are there, which creates a space where people can fall into and become absorbed fully into the fantasy. The plots are fantasy (sorry to disappoint anyone, but I have in fact not taken over a radio station to brainwash you all….) but I take so much joy from creating these immersive spaces… I am, after all, a writer… (cough and award-winning writer… and I’ll never let any of you forget it…).

I get a lot of people asking me every day… “can you brainwash me into XYZ?” and the obvious answers here are… within one session? No. Within you viewing a few pre-recorded sessions? No. To do something you genuinely dislike? No. But, and this is where I may annoy some people, I do think it’s possible to condition someone into untypical behaviours and patterns. And I know because I have three different examples of people I have worked with where this has been the case. But the reality, and not the fantasy of this, is that these examples are people who worked with me consistently for months, if not years. They are not engaging in things they hate… maybe they are apprehensive or have been, but the tolerance levels are there. We are not just engaging in hypnosis alone, and it is a very, very rare personality that is susceptible to this. The reality is, most people would not be able to withstand or tolerate that kind of head fuckery. Conjointly, there is consent there, it’s meta consent, but consent nonetheless.

What is happening may not be real... But your reactions, responses and sensations are real.

It always irks me slightly as well that people speak of imagination-based experiences as though they were… well… imaginary. What you experience in your mind might not necessarily be tangible, but the effect it has on you psychologically, neurologically, and physically (relief and relaxation, baby…) is very much real. And so, I fully enjoy blurring those lines, because I don’t want anyone to walk away from engaging with me or my work with the mind thinking “oh that was nice”… I want you to walk away feeling like you were taken to that particular space that I know can be so hard to reach in reality. Fantasy can be equally as effective in play as any reality.

It’s a question I’m asked so frequently… so for those that have asked, I do hope this clears up my stance… until next time, darlings.