Lets talk about whether power exchange can hold more than pleasure. Dear Reader, I have to be honest with you. Today’s blog post was inspired by a morning Instagram scroll and a post that left me in an unusual position, suspended somewhere between agreement and disagreement. It isn’t often that I find myself standing on that particular bridge. And so, I spent most of my morning pondering this debate: Can kink or BDSM ever be considered therapy? I won’t go into too many specif

No performance...Nothing to explain... Firstly… I should start by stating that I am not a traditional dominatrix ( everyone in the room gasps ). My very specific, self-given title is actually Erotic Hypnotist  and/or Hypno Domme . Some may call me pedantic for having to highlight this, but I do believe the distinction is important, and that no one should assume my words come from the experience of a traditional dominatrix. (There are plenty of people far more qualified to spe

Sometimes the bravest thing you can do... Is soften... There’s a curious paradox built into how we understand power and control. In everyday life, strength is taught as something tightly held, a clenched fist, a steady gaze, a refusal to yield. We equate control with mastery, drive with grit, and softness with failure. And yet, the most profound growth rarely comes from resistance, it comes from letting go . Letting go isn’t about giving up. It’s about making space. Your body

My go-to  answer whenever anyone asks me this is always “both”. But as straight to the point as that is… it’s pretty blunt, bland, and doesn’t leave much scope for insight. I think before I whittle on about my own personal opinion and perspective, it is quite important for us to go over what erotic hypnosis actually is … which is exactly what it  says on the tin… the practice of hypnosis used in conjunction with erotic themes… though I will give you a much fleshier answer…. I

opening a box you know you weren’t meant to touch and discovering something unexpectedly delightful inside. I’ve never questioned my own gender identity, so my personal relationship with gender feels simple. Yet I’m often told my views appear “complex.” I don’t feel they are, I just don’t subscribe to the rigid definitions that dominate mainstream discourse. Concepts are concepts. They shift. They breathe. They are not brick and mortar. Working within the sex industry and the

Music opens the door... Hypnosis walks you through it... I'm going to tell you all a secret... that may shock and astound you.... Many, many, many, many (probably more than that many many’s) years ago, I was actually a musician. Very specifically, I was a singer/songwriter. To those of you who absolutely inflate my ego by praising my work so highly, I'm quite certain it's my stint in music that has made the content of my hypnosis production so good. I have a good 15 years und

The Allure of Aesthetic Delights It should come as no surprise that I am quite partial to an outfit... It's one of the many perks of the fetish scene. Do we make your toes curl sometimes? (In agony or delight... whatever tickles your fancy...) Absolutely. But we will probably look good doing it. I hate to reduce myself to aesthetic delights, but honestly, I believe fashion is what initially attracted me to this scene. As a teenager and even as a young child, I was always draw

Always remember to pack your sub whenever returning home from a trip.... It's such a curious thing, to be a person who intersects between professional and personal within the BDSM sphere. My running bit is that I love BDSM so much, that I just had to make it a part of my career too. The benefit of course, is that I am quite lucky to have friends in all spheres... and as such I'm privy to many perspectives. I've somewhat become an agony aunt to many (take that as you will darl

A reflection on the strange, beautiful path that led me to the intersection of psychology, hypnotism, shadow work and womanhood inked in darker tones.